Have you ever heard the nursery rhyme about the little girl with the curl in the middle of her forehead? There’s a line that says:

When she was good, she was very, very good, when she was bad, she was awful!

Aren’t most things like that? People are happy and excited and get married, or go into business together and everything is roses, giggles and rainbows.

Then, when things get tough, it gets, well, awful. And much of the “awful” stems from one side of the differences being more aware or in control than the other. Let me explain.

Take a divorce situation first. For some spouses, it doesn’t matter what is in the bank account or what assets are where or whether there is retirement, life insurance, [...]