You were married and had children. You never thought it was even in your vocabulary to be asking someone to “follow my wife” or considered you have a wife cheating on you. But here you are talking to an attorney about your suspicions about a cheating spouse.

He’s asking whether or not you have seen signs of a cheating spouse and all the ways to catch a cheating spouse. You feel numb and you know your eyes are glazing over – because while you loved that woman, your heart aches for your children.

If divorce is inevitable, your home life will change drastically and so will the life you have worked so hard to build for your children. All of a sudden, child custody is what you can’t get off your mind. It’s hard to imagine not waking up and hearing laughter and whispers and yes, even the arguments. You think marital infidelity is one thing – and that’s between you and her. But the impact is much larger – it has to do with your kids.

The attorney is talking about cheating spouse surveillance and you agree because in your heart you already know. And now you want the extramarital affair uncovered because you want your unfaithful wife to agree to the terms you can accept as a divorced father. Having proof of your wife having an affair can mean you have more say in the terms of child custody.

So, while you are hurt and angry, you decide that you will play it cool. You want what’s best for your children and you know that you won’t be able to move past this secret affair. So working with your attorney and , you will catch your cheating spouse and collect the evidence you need.

It’s not a case of making lemonade out of lemons, no, this is a case of making the best decisions for the well-being of your kids and there’s no lemonade involved. You just want to have time to share a glass of milk and all the important and everyday times of their lives.

-Brenda McGinley, CEO, All in Investigations, All in Investigations